I was listening to one of my colleagues tell me a story of how she has been heart broken not once but in all five relationships she has had. 90% of all relationship stories have a woman complaining of being hurt. Don't men hurt or are they just good at covering it up? Each and every relationship has its ups and downs but i just wanted to highlight 3 of the mistakes i think women make.
1. Assumption
Women while entering a relationship don't take much time to know a bout the men they are getting involved with. After a few days of dating the women is smitten every topic with the girlfriends is about the new man and at this point only 'good' stuff is being mentioned like where he took me, what he bought me e.t.c. I really don't think one can fall in love at such a short time or rather love at first sight but this will be a topic for another day.
2. To fit in, Fame
I believe the only reason you should see a guy for a second date is because he respects you and treats you well then love can come in later. But when a woman starts dating a man because he is hot and is the latest catch or is on the list of the most eligible bachelor then you have lost focus. If it's money come on!!!! you can make your own and spend it as you wish. Men know these things and if he know you are not in it for love then of course he wont respect you and guess who will get hurt in the end..not the man.
3. Scared of being alone
Ever wonder why some women seem to get a man immediately after one relationship ends? It's not because they are strikingly gorgeous and am not trying to put anyone down. After a relationship any normal human being needs time to heal and focus on the next best thing and i don't think a man is it.
Know yourself better, love yourself more than anyone and don't take crap from anyone. Of course if you love yourself no one will ever think of treating you any less than you deserve.
2 comments:
Jane,
That is very good since your a woman too. Some women tend to "love men" just because of money and in the end its them who end up being hurt. And they call it love at first sight. Maam may God have mercy on them.
Love is blind as they say .
There is no easy way of understanding what pple look for in a relationship, so what is left is just give advice and live at that, whatever they decide its their own problem.
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